Not that it matters because some would never understand the concept but
My first son was born when as 18. I worked my day job then quickly threw on a pair of work overalls and pumped gas until 9:30PM 5 day a week.( in Jersey you can't pump your own gas). I did this for 3 years and the money made from the night job paid for the stuff like formula, pampers, and my sons regular doctor bills. I worked both jobs, left at 6:30AM got home at 10:00PM. My wife did side jobs whenever she could.
It was a terrible job, I hated it. One night some guys driving by threw a plastic cup of soda at me.. hit me in the chest. It was demoralizing. But I continued to work there because jobs were tight, I was young and had little experience and it was a recession
But most of all because my son needed that stuff and he was MY responsibility.
This is what 10's of millions of other mother and fathers also did.
your son had a mother and father around ... two potential sources of income, and two potential sets of supervision
single parents doing it on their own, dont have it so fortunate ...
Kudos to you and ALL parents who care about their kids 'needs', which Im sure most do regardless of financial or employment status.
that is because we were taught personal responsibility. And in " my world" you create a baby... you raise that kid. You don't and you are going to hear it.. everyday, from your family, your relatives. and then her family and her relatives. You would be a disgrace to your family until you do " the right thing"
Especially your father and grandfathers.. they are going to make sure you " do the right thing".. but then again.. they are in your life to begin with.
personal responsibility
something that escapes baby daddies and something maybe the woman should think about... before they bed down with a guy...Hmmm
some would say supervising our own kids is our responsibility
and some would say paying for them is our responsibility
when in reality, BOTH are,
and when they are two parents involved, they can navigate so at least one is doing both at any given time
someone by themself has no such option, they have to pick their 'responsibility' to supervise their own kids or their 'responsibility' to pay for them
parents who have to choose one or the other are in a tough spot and no less 'responsible' for doing one or the other,
like I said, paying the bills is not the ONLY responsibility parents have or feel an obligation to tend to ...
and personal responsibility, with kids, is a two way street, there are TWO parents, when both are responsible it works fine, when that two becomes one or any other of lifes set backs happen, people need help.
responsibility does escape alot of men, but its usually not something they are forthcoming about before they 'bed' down with a woman.
Edited by
msharmony
on Sun 08/26/18 12:33 PM